One of the greatest challenges I face as a mom of two toddlers, which I believe is the challenge of every mom, is trying to find time for myself. Motherhood really is so different than all the other jobs out there.Why you ask? Why?
All other jobs come with a start time and end time. Breaks. Vacations. This doesn’t always fit the world of babies, toddlers, children, where the UNPREDICTABLE and NEVER ENDING demands attention and intervention round the clock. I mean on top of the normal, getting them dressed, fed, and changed, there’s diaper explosions, pasta up the nose, poop up the back, rice krispies in the ears, play dough in the rug, gum in the hair, crayons on the walls, feet in the dresser drawers, poop on the couch, detached arms, and screaming till your inner ears tingle, well, you know.
As a mom, you’re always on call. They wake you up before sunrise, plaster stickers on your face while you attempt to nap, and they even appear in your bed in the middle of the night. Your kids come with you on “vacation.” It’s both the greatest blessing and greatest cost of motherhood: constant companionship.
And then there’s that guilt. That false mommy guilt of not having done enough. The guilt of feeling like you should have done better, more, different. Or never being good enough.
Why is it that in all other jobs, it is expected that you would take a break–at least a lunch break. It is expected that if you work overtime, you would be compensated in some way. Why do we feel as moms this does not apply? Do we really believe the lie that we are being selfish to take a break and find time for ourselves?
Can we say sleep deprivation? burnout? Someone please intervene before we all turn into the Momzillas round the train tables!
Well, what I have personally found, is that if I give myself rest and a little down time I have that much more to give to my children. I come back revived, and end up enjoying my job even more. I already know that some rest is what I need, but the challenge is how do I make it happen?
How do you make it happen? How do you get yourself rest as a mom? What do you do to give yourself some “you” time?
I do have some thoughts, but as I type I’m laying in bed with my laptop watching Will Smith’s ear enlarge to the size of a grapefruit from food poisoning in the movie Hitch and I think for now, I’m going to have some rest time of my own : ) So, please share yours and I’ll be back with mine soon.